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This personal development lark can be a pain, can’t it?

When I started out, years ago, as a beginner in the never ending rigmarole of trying-to-understand-myself-and-be-a-better-person (and, while I was about it, an emotionally sound, pain-free, modest and cool person as well), nobody told me it would be tough.

I’ve often wondered, since than, how it would have been to have been blessed with self-satisfied ignorance. I’d have saved a fortune, not to mention a huge amount of time as well, in books, training, therapy… and all the things that cropped up and needed paying for or attending to while on my ‘journey’.

If I’d had the sense early on, I could have stayed where I was and simply gone to the pub each time I felt bad, and drowned my sorrows. How much easier it would have been.

 

3 Responses to “Nobody Said It Would Be Easy”

  1. Is this you throwing down the gauntlet Barry? If you now Know yourself pretty well and love yourself, then it was worth all trials and tribulations. Personally, in hindsight, I enjoyed my journey of discovery even though I spent lots of time and money on so many enlightening subjects. Bless you for being the wise sage that you now are. Linda

     
  2. It’s the “wondering”, “wandering” and the “why?” on our personal journeys of discovery that make life so very much more interesting than relying on an alcoholic haze to get you through – but I still enjoy a good wine or a decent beer!

     
  3. I often hear “But it’s not easy!” from clients when talking about making changes (particularly changes to substance use). My question then is “Does it need to be?” I read a great article a while ago (can’t find it at the moment) that said what sets us apart is not what we want (because everyone wants a great job, a great family life, great health, etc), it’s what we are willing to struggle through and sacrifice in order to get it. Anything worth doing (parenting is a good example for many) isn’t easy.

     

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