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The doldrums are a state we pass through. They are temporary, need not be not a fixed and permanent place of residence. But we’ve learned to pathologise our moods. Feeling ‘bad’, ‘down’, ‘blue’, or whatever you’d call it, doesn’t mean you are ‘ill’.

From time to time any of us can find ourselves momentarily in the doldrums, unsure of which way to move next, or simply in need of a chance to step off the treadmill and plan.

That’s where this blog comes in. Whether you are going through a bad patch, an adjustment to change for example, or your difficulties are more sustained and mean you’ve struggled over time, I’d like to show you that it can change. “Life doesn’t have to be like that” has been my mantra for years. I believe it, and I can demonstrate it.

Signposting and reflection

The items on this blog are all aimed at prompting thought and signposting a way through some of the unavoidable challenges we face. Everything I write is intended to be light, accessible, thought-provoking and relevant to your life in some way. My posts are backed by 30 years’ experience as a therapist and consultant, and a lifetime of dealing with this stuff myself, and learning.

The same is true of my therapy. We won’t spend time discussing what went wrong, your guilt or your failures. I’ll help redirect you by identifying your strengths, focusing on and improving your abilities. A shift should occur in the first session, and often that’s enough for some people. Read more about Single Session Therapy.

 

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