If you find yourself approaching a flash-point try this:
Ask yourself how you’d like the next few minutes of your life to be remembered. If someone was making a documentary what would the fly-on-the-wall witness as it watched you reacting to the stress? Can you choose how to behave in a way that would make you proud when you watch the documentary later?
I discovered this a few years ago and it works beautifully as a way to pull myself back from the brink (on a good day, with the wind behind me).
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October 15th, 2017
We frequently abandon conversations before they really get started. Once sparks begin to fly – or we fear that they will – we back off.
Yet that is precisely the moment to engage in discussion, but that would require commitment to overcoming the fears of our own imaginings. Our excuse is that that to keep talking will make things worse. It doesn’t, if you go about it the right way.
The trouble is, no-one ever tells us how to do it, so we grow up with childish notions about opposition automatically leading to a fight.
That only happens because we make it happen by fighting.Continue reading
October 13th, 2017
We can learn a lot from our elders and betters, yet we often disregard their wisdom.
When somebody has been around for a long time they might have something interesting to tell us.Continue reading
October 11th, 2017
If you are troubled by unwanted feelings of guilt, here’s an exercise that can help. It is part of my soon-to-be-released online course ‘How to be Free of Guilt’.
The trick is to make the feelings disappear by making mischief.Continue reading