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We all grieve in our own way. Some build shrines, some make monuments. Some try to recreate the past, others will fashion new beginnings. Each of these has its place, but they can become distractions.

While grieving can produce wistfulness, nostalgia and regret, it should not be confused with these things; they are parallel to it, not it.

Grieving is about healing and growth. It often provokes a yearning for something to fill the void, but it is a journey one can only do alone, so it can be lonely. We may feel that we want help and support, but it is a journey one must do entirely by oneself.

Watching somebody grieve can be difficult too, but we can’t do it for them, so simply acknowledge and be present when needed. William Cowper said Grief is itself a medicine“.

 

One Response to “Good Grief”

  1. Thank you Barry. Less is often more in the fields you write about and this post is a good example. It can be tempting to write on, but this is a good example of brevity honouring the subject and the reader.

     

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