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In almost every field of human endeavour we’ve got better at things. Medicine? No doubt; Physics? Check; Technology? Check; the list goes on… Notwithstanding that there are still huge gaps in our knowledge, throughout time we humans have steadily increased our abilities in almost all fields, from Anthropology to Zoology.

We haven’t done it in the two most important ones. We are not getting any happier, and we still pretend that we don’t know how to manage harmful conflict (and we also act as though we don’t know how to repair the damage done by conflict).

Odd that, isn’t it? We are so clever in so many areas, but we have a collective blind spot where the two that actually matter most are concerned.

 

2 Responses to “How To Be Happy (Yawn)”

  1. I end up in tears some days when thinking of our lack of evolution in this area of relationships with our fellow humans. Do you have any idea of a solution? I think that we are beyond creating change on a one to one basis. Maybe it’s built into human DNA.

     
  2. Perhaps the solution lies in celebrating our successes, rather than highlighting the parts that don’t work, as I did. After reading your comment I was walking through the town where I live and it occurred to me how remarkable it is (and how much we take for granted), the way, as societies, we do work together.

    It’s in the nature of systems to fail, which means constant little repairs and adjustments are necessary. Human relationships are generally very good at doing this, but sometimes they don’t, or won’t.

     

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