Skip to Navigation

I recently read a post on a mental health blog which said “Talking therapy is great, but things get worse before they get better, so you have to stick with it.”

This is a misguided generalisation that can do harm be preventing people from seeking therapy. It might also be an excuse an ineffective therapist could use.

Therapy is about growth and positive change. In my case – and like other brief therapists – I expect each session to make a difference. Clients should feel better at the end of a session than they did at the beginning.

This doesn’t mean the problem is ‘fixed’, but they should feel more optimistic and hopeful about whatever brought them to therapy than they did when they made the appointment. If one of my clients feels worse at the end of the session, then it is not the end of the session. It is my responsibility to ensure that they leave each session feeling empowered and able, even when they are involved in longer-term therapy (not everyone chooses single-session).

Expectation is self-fertilising; positive expectation tends to promote positive outcomes, and negative expectations do the opposite. Telling someone to expect that they’ll feel worse might be an appropriate preparation if there is good reason to say it (when the pain killers wear off for example). And it is certainly true that even when people are well on the road to recovery from, say depression or loss, they can still have a bad day. But the trend should always be improvement.

True, when you start in therapy, you might feel a little discomfort, the sort that goes with trying anything new. Creating and expectation of negative change (or feeling worse) before you get better is not only misguided, it is irresponsible and just plain wrong.

 

2 Responses to ““It Gets Worse Before It Gets Better.” I Don’t Think So.”

  1. I totally agree with you. For someone in emotional pain just the fact they have attended a therapy session is a positive – it is an indication of wanting to make changes.

     
  2. This post follows on from your “When is the Right Time for Therapy” post. When a person truly seeks change in their life, then the emotions brought out in the beginning can only be a positive thing…the person is actually starting to “feel” a change, not just think about it. Again, thank you for your insightful thoughts.

     

What do you think? Share your thoughts...

Latest from the blog

Selective Optimism for Pessimists

There are advantages to optimism that are worth considering, but some people are put off because they don’t want to be disloyal to negativity.

Optimism and pessimism are generally seen as opposites, but that doesn’t mean they are mutually exclusive; learning optimism does not mean abandoning negativity. If that is what turns you on, stick with it.

If you tend towards a pessimistic outlook, how about learning selective optimism? That way you can get the benefits and still be true to your negativity.

Continue reading
FREE DOWNLOAD - Get it now.

How to be more Resilient

Get my super-helpful guide '9 Steps to Resilience' absolutely FREE, when you subscribe to my newsletter.

Understand the steps to resilience and you can develop the ability to cope with problems and setbacks with less stress and more confidence.
close-link
%d bloggers like this: