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One of those common errors of thinking that there’s a relationship that’s easy to imagine but actually incorrect: In order for dramatic change to take place, a miracle has to happen.

Perhaps its true that miracles almost never happen, but miraculous things certainly do. This is specially true where change in our personal situation is concerned.

Spontaneous change is all around us but we often miss what we say we are looking for because we have been programmed to believe that we are stuck with what we’ve got. If we look for constancy and unchangingness then of course we’ll find it.

On the other hand, asking ourselves “How is this different from…?” or “What positive changes have happened since I last thought about this…?” can yield surprising answers.

 

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Conversational Insights and Openings

We frequently abandon conversations before they really get started. Once sparks begin to fly – or we fear that they will – we back off.

Yet that is precisely the moment to engage in discussion, but that would require commitment to overcoming the fears of our own imaginings. Our excuse is that that to keep talking will make things worse. It doesn’t, if you go about it the right way.

The trouble is, no-one ever tells us how to do it, so we grow up with childish notions about opposition automatically leading to a fight.

That only happens because we make it happen by fighting.

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It Speaks for Itself

We can learn a lot from our elders and betters, yet we often disregard their wisdom.

When somebody has been around for a long time they might have something interesting to tell us.

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How to Remedy Guilty Feelings

Manage feelings, confidence boosting

If you are troubled by unwanted feelings of guilt, here’s an exercise that can help. It is part of my soon-to-be-released online course ‘How to be Free of Guilt’.

The trick is to make the feelings disappear by making mischief.

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