Positive changes are often overshadowed by less favourable shifts. This means that when we are trying to fix or free ourselves from problem, we tend to be attuned to information that confirms what is wrong. It takes a conscious effort to buck the trend and look for improvements, especially when they are small.
I was speaking to somebody recently about personal change and ambition. Three points seemed relevant:
- It’s worth remembering that progress is often ‘two steps forwards and one step back’. Some people get impatient and see setbacks as “It’s all gone wrong”. Keep the faith and hang in there.
- If there are some days (or weeks) where things are less motivating than you’d like them to be, just flow with it, they’ll pick up in time (and your mind is working on it even when you are not aware of it, if you have a vision of where you want to go)
- Look out for the positive changes, even the smallest, it’ll be good to notice them because it’s motivating to know something is happening. People often fail to see the small positive changes when they are fixated on their past performance or the ‘problem’.
I’ve been writing on the Solution Focused approach lately, and it’s my SF work and training that influences my thinking here, so here are some links to earlier posts that relate: