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How much time do you spend on your inner wellbeing? If you are like most people, the answer is probably “Not a lot”.

Even if you do subscribe to a spiritual regime the chances are that you are following someone else’s ideas about how it should be done (if you are unclear about ‘spiritual’, see Spiritual? Moi? Of Course!).

Some people go to the gym regularly, for maybe an hour or more at a time and several hours a week. Others pore over diet sheets, think about eating healthily, shop for food… this takes hours too. Then there’s making ourselves look good (clothes, cosmetics), cleaning rituals involving bath or shower, the hairdresser… A lot of time devoted to external signs of health and physical wellbeing.

We spend virtually no time attending to our inner needs and nurturing our emotional and psychological comfort and happiness. The irony is that, while all the other stuff may be visible, and produce some instant ‘feel-good’, you’ll never know if it’s paying off in the long term. You just have to keep doing it, in case. Besides, all the advice tells us its a good idea.

I’m not knocking exercise, healthy eating and all the rest, nor an I denying the benefits. It’s just that the amount of time and attention lavished on the outside is disproportionate when contrasted with our emotional and psychological needs. What’s more, happiness and contentment bring instant and long lasting benefit.

Understanding ourselves, attending to our inner needs and spiritual wellbeing takes much less effort and with a little practice we can do it wherever we are and whenever the opportunity arises. Think of it as regular, routine maintenance.

 

2 Responses to “Tend To What You (And Others) Can’t See”

  1. I’ve found that when I am well emotionally I don’t stress about the exercise, the way I dress nor the way I present myself to others…I feel so good from the inside out that my happy face is enough to make others notice and it doesn’t matter if I’m a bit overweight, if my clothing isn’t new and always the most modern. And yes, I am an older woman, but one who can only wish that others learn this lesson much earlier in life than I did. True joy and real happiness can only come from having emotional wellbeing. Thanks once again Barry, for this.

     

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