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It is often said that love should be unconditional. As I understand it this means the near impossibility for not expecting anything in return for the love you give.

It is an admirable concept and a beacon of inspiration for parents and carers, as well as lovers and those who aspire to be. It may be more ideal than actuality, but still it helps to think that it is achievable.

It is probably one of those life-long journey things, rather than something we arrive at in ourselves or in any relationship. However ‘unconditionally’ we love, the objects of our affections will inevitably disappoint us or let us down in some way, from time to time. That can’t happen if love is truly unconditional.

So let’s leave that for the philosophers and dreamers, for now at least. I came to this because I was thinking about listening (while I was ‘listening’ to someone I love, incidentally).

“How about Unconditional Listening?” I thought.

Listing unconditionally is something we can all do right here, right now. Giving full attention to what another person is saying without judging, or attempting to steer or influence them or the conversation, is also a near impossibility, but it IS do-able.

An who knows, that might play a part in love.

 

4 Responses to “Unconditional Love? Try Listening”

  1. Yes, it is doable…I try my best to do this, but often fail. I often want to “try” to help my daughter, tell her of my many mistakes in the hope of “helping” her! She needs to make her own mistakes and help herself…I am slowly learning this so now when I find myself “telling” her things instead of just listening I pinch my inner arm, hard. It hurts, as I am hurting her by talking instead of listening. Yes, I have indeed learned and conquered some lessons, but her path is hers to take, not mine…thanks for this reminder Barry.

     

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