Conflicts are inevitable, but the more we know about human nature, the better we will be at resolving conflicts, and the better the outcome might be for both parties. We know that different people have different priorities and different styles in dealing with situations that may occur, but in general, human beings have certain characteristics that are very similar – even across gender, racial, and socio-economic lines.
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January 19th, 2018
We shroud ourselves in beliefs that help us feel secure. One of these is that things tomorrow will be the same as they were yesterday. But the idea that things don’t change is a delusion, that is all.
Nothing wrong with that, but it is best to recognise it, and to keep an open mind about what will happen next. The greater our need to keep things the way they are, the greater the risk of disappointment and even neurosis.
Trying to control the uncontrollable is unpleasant for us, and those around us.Continue reading
January 17th, 2018
While we are usually sensitive to the power of words we are less so in what we say and think about ourselves.
A simple exercise demonstrates this.Continue reading
January 15th, 2018
There are advantages to optimism that are worth considering, but some people are put off because they don’t want to be disloyal to negativity.
Optimism and pessimism are generally seen as opposites, but that doesn’t mean they are mutually exclusive; learning optimism does not mean abandoning negativity. If that is what turns you on, stick with it.
If you tend towards a pessimistic outlook, how about learning selective optimism? That way you can get the benefits and still be true to your negativity.Continue reading