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If you have something that you are worrying about and you are happy to keep worrying, then you don’t need to read this post.

If, on the other hand the worry is getting you down and you’d like to be free of it, it might help to ask yourself the following questions:

  • Is the thing I’m worried about mine to worry about?
  • Can my worry help me find a solution so that I can stop worrying (and even if I find a solution, can I apply it)?
  • Is it that worrying serves some purpose for me (e.g. it obscures some bigger concern or anxiety that I’m unable/refusing to deal with)?
  • Is this faux-worry (it’s not the ‘problem’ that’s the problem at all, I’ve just got used to worrying, it’s a habit)?
  • Do I need to do more worrying (instead of low-grade background worry, should I really devote some time to it and drive myself to distraction, in the hope that finally the worry burns itself out)?
  • When I’m not actually worrying about this, how do I manage that (what am I doing instead, can I do more of it)?

Let’s face it, some people like to worry, maybe you are one of them. No point in worrying about being a worrier. Set yourself free, enjoy it.

But some of us also get gripped by worrying and it can be debilitating. These questions might help you get a different perspective, but if they’r not the right ones for you, I have more, just ask.

 

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