I have occasionally been asked to describe the philosophy underpinning my work. This is essentially Solution Focused, and based on over 20 years of working with conflict, but it applies to pretty much everything I do.
As ever, please feel free to comment. Anything as grandiose as a ‘guiding philosophy’ must be subject to constant scrutiny and review, and your thoughts will help.
Telling yourself good stuff about yourself seems, intuitively, like a good idea. It is supposed to help you feel good, or better, about yourself, and to gradually build self-esteem.
But this only works if the statements – or ‘affirmations’ – are believable. Far fetched inspirational statements seem like a good idea, but they can actually have the opposite effect.
Continue readingStories have the power to persuade and change, they can also condemn and isolate us.
Once we are past childhood we judge a story by the storyteller. We look for interests and motives that could render the story invalid or suspect.
When we listen to the stories we tell ourselves we should be similarly cautious, the narrator is usually hugely biased.
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It used to be called work-life balance,
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