It’s hard for parents struggling with an emotional crisis of their own to understand that they need to get over it for the sake of the children, but they do.
It’s even harder for them to put it into practice, but they must.
The negative effects of change and uncertainty ripple out and affect others, like children. Change takes time, but sometimes there is no time and we have to adapt to change quickly.
The impact that unresolved anger, resentment, rancour and loss between an estranged couple can have on their children can be unfathomable and far-reaching.
In such a situation, adjusting to the new reality means that each of the partners will learn how to quickly adapt to the new reality without acting out their grief and pain. Of course, this isn’t easy, but for the present and future wellbeing of their children, it is a necessity.
This is so difficult to do and some people will never manage it. In fact, if they could, some would never have separated in the first place.