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Forgetting is a Gift – Use It

We are blessed with the ability to forget things. It’s a gift, but we often overlook its central importance in how we function.

Remembering is valued,. Not remembering is judged, criticized and diagnosed. Rightly so in some cases, but should we jump to the conclusion that forgetting is de facto some sort of failure?

The ability to forget is a gift that we generally fail to unwrap. If we could remember to forget more often it might free us up for other things.

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Beware of Your Dreams

I don’t know if it is a popular saying, but “That which you focus on becomes your reality” is certainly popular with me. It ties in with how our expectations can become self-fulfilling predictions. The French say, “Beware of your dreams…”, in English we say “Be careful what you wish for…”. Both these point to […]

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Fix a problem? The Cause Is No Solution

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Looking back is easy, but it can be an ill-informed and lazy habit. Or a cop-out, or an excuse for doing nothing. Problem solving always happens after now, so look to the future and stop grubbing about in the past.

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How to Get On Without Giving In

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Progress that involves people is often obstructed by the way we think about the choices we must decide between. ‘Choice’ is a concept, and one which can be expanded or contracted at will.

The way we think determines what we are silling to see.

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Is Optimistic Thinking the Way Forward?

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Learning optimism and teaching ourselves to use it by choice can have far-reaching consequences that help create emotional and physical resilience.
The future hasn’t happened yet, which means that it is laced with possibilities. One of them is that we can choose how we go there (to the future that is).

You don’t have to be an optimist to think optimistically, and there are many reasons we it is worth our consideration.

For one thing, optimism is linked to resilience, so even if it doesn’t suit you to take a positive outlook, becoming more resilient should be of interest (because it’ll help you cope when things go wrong).

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Our Need to Make Meaning Can Deceive Us

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“Nothing is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so”, wrote Shakespeare.

Interpreting things and finding meaning for them is so automatic we don’t generally question it. Our minds provide an endless parade of interpretations and meanings in the personal soap opera we call thinking.

There is another way, but you may not like it.

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