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You Win Some, And You Lose Some

These are part of the same process and trying to separate them by focusing on one or the other creates an ‘either-or’ situation that can never really happen.

Thinking like that can distract you and stifle creativity, among other things.

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Keeping an Open Mind

Open mind good – closed mind bad; it is implied if not actually said.

The trouble is that even when the mind is open there is a sort of glass door just behind the opening that filters what comes in.

It’s no good having and open mind if it is only ‘open’ to what yo want to hear.

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Are We Ever Finished With Growing?

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Could it be that though we can see that we have gained wisdom and insight with life’s experience, we nevertheless consider that the process is over and that at any given moment we are as wise as we’ll ever be?

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Learned Helplessness Is Taking Over

learned helplessness

If society is responded to the rise in depression with helplessness, then society has bought into precisely the thinking styles that contribute to depression in the first place.

If you suffer from depression the last place to spend your time is among people who feel as you do, but if everybody feels fatalistic about it where’s the support to come from?

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It Was Polite When It Left My Lips

Is it something in the air? How do my carefully chosen words get distorted in the short distance from speaker to listener? I never meant harm. A simple statement of fact, a remark or an observation… Anyway, that’s how I am; what you see is what you get, I can’t change, it’s just how I […]

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Why a Bedtime Ritual Improves Your Sleep

Rituals allow us to complete things in a prescribed way. “Often people will say something like “my bedtime ritual is to take a bath, brush my teeth, read for a while and then try and go to sleep the same time each night when I can.” While it is tempting to call that a ritual, […]

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Are We Ever Finished With Growing?

finished with growing, sfbt, solution focused training

Could it be that though we can see that we have gained wisdom and insight with life’s experience, we nevertheless consider that the process is over and that at any given moment we are as wise as we’ll ever be?

Continue reading

Keeping an Open Mind

Open mind good – closed mind bad; it is implied if not actually said.

The trouble is that even when the mind is open there is a sort of glass door just behind the opening that filters what comes in.

It’s no good having and open mind if it is only ‘open’ to what yo want to hear.

Continue reading