How to Grow Your Confidence
Some people seem to have the edge from birth and are naturally more confident than others, but confidence can be developed at any time.
No Hesitation When You’re In the Right Place
Difficult decisions can lead to a cycle of over-analysis, which in turn makes it harder to decide. We've all been there. The thing is, as you know, those questions don't trouble us when we are in the right place.
Our Need to Get Even Makes It Hard to Back Down
Conflict causes widespread damage; it's not a private matter and it isn't only the two adversaries who suffer.
You Can Change the Way You Feel
Attributing our moods, feelings or even our (lack of) of self-esteem to the judgements of others or events outside ourselves is a handy delusion which is useful as a buffer. It protects us for a time and satisfies the common need to blame when things go wrong. But it is no solution to feeling unhappy or upset, and the more we do it the more our feelings seem to control us. It is realtively easy to learn to control our feelings, but you may not like it enough to do...
Cluttered Office, Cluttered Mind?
There is a difference between ‘work in progress’, and a mess. Untidy office space damages relationships, performance, morale, and more. It also broadcasts a message you might not want to share, but does a cluttered office necessarily say something about the occupant's mind?
How to Keep Your Anger At Bay
Not all anger is bad, so before you beat yourself up, it's worth understanding what triggers your anger and what you intend it to achieve. Then, here are some ways of getting better control over your angry outbursts (if you have them).
Facts, Opinions and Assumptions – How Often Do You Check?
Fact checking is something we'd often prefer not to do. Even the best critical thinkers can be deluded, mistaken, or swayed, when it suits us.
Brooding is Just Rehearsing Your Failures
Reflection is good, brooding is not. But how do you break the cycle of negative thinking? It is great that human beings can reflect and learn from experience, but that is not the same as destructively dwelling on things. Going over things again and again serves no useful purpose and may well reinforce the sense of failure. It's a habit worth breaking.
Hope and the Spiritual – Nothing to do with Religion
'Spiritual' does not only mean 'religious'. It has a lot to do with confidence, sense of purpose and wellbeing.
Self-Hatred is Not an Accurate Reflection
Beliefs about ourselves are rarely accurate. In general we tend to over-estimate how good we are at things, but when we are depressed we do the opposite. Wellbeing doesn't seem to be about accurate self-appraisal, it is more a question of using our imagination creatively.
