We act as if we don’t have time to listen, the modern pace of life and attitudes to ‘getting things done’ emphasises outcomes and results. But listening is both a result and an outcome, and the benefits are greater for the listener than for the speaker.
It's frustrating when someone won't listen. Paradoxically, people pay more attention to those who listen to THEM, so maybe a good starting point is you want to be heard, is to listen.
Active listening: Good listeners are more productive, make better partners and colleagues, are better problem-solvers, and have healthier interpersonal relationships.
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How good is your listening? Listening (as opposed to just hearing), is a dynamic activity, not a passive way to pass the time. It takes effort, focus and skill. It also means putting ourselves aside and fully paying attention to those we would listen to. Listening is not for the faint-heated, but the benefits are worth the effort.
Listening – here called compassionate listening – is the primary requirement in conflict resolution. It's also the platform for building stronger relationships and mutual understanding. I wish it was taught in more schools.
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Listen up! Wellbeing, confidence, fulfilment and a sense of purpose can all be provided by simply learning to listen well. Do it properly and you'll be surprised at how it helps you calm down, and move up in peoples' estimations of you.
While we are usually sensitive to the power of words we are less so in what we say and think about ourselves. A simple exercise demonstrates this.
A listening conversation is vital for social cohesion and when you are listening well you are doing something useful for the people you listen to. It's also good for your health, balance and sense of identity. Done properly, it helps you think, too.