There is no such thing as a ‘communication breakdown’. We here about it all time time, but I think this is a an inaccurate and limiting term which does more harm than good. Here’s why.
How do my carefully chosen words get changed in the short distance from speaker to listener? Distorted meanings cause so much trouble.
If you find yourself in a relationship that’s struggling and are unsure where to turn here’s something you can do to clarify things.
If you feel underpowered when responding to difficult behaviour, you are not alone. Most of us make some common mistakes. These four points are a game-changer.
To love someone unconditionally may be more of an ideal than an achievable goal, but it is a worthy reminder and useful advice in shaping our own behaviour. Still, it is probably out of reach for most mortals. On the other hand, listening unconditionally is something we can practice, and there may be a link to love.
Escalation can be avoided if you know how. Heated discussion usually makes disagreement worse, the meta-conversation is a step to avoid that.
Comforting someone when they are sad can be a difficult and emotional task, but it is an important one. Showing support and understanding can help the person feel less alone and can help them work through their emotions.
Healthy workplalce culture has to be worked at and maintained. I often come across staff who blame the managers, and managers who blame employees. The fact is, everyone is responsible for their own behaviour, and it all conributes to the culture. The thing to remember is that rudeness and lack of consideration are toxic to any relationship, and work is no exception.
Fixers and Floaters can get caught up in a relationship of inter-dependence. Breaking the cycle helps both.
In response to a question I was asked recently. Short answer: You don't. But this is a nuanced question, with many interpretations, so I given a longer answer, several in fact. But maybe my 'box' is too restrictive.