It is now easier to comment on these posts. If you would like to share an insight, make an observation or start a debate on this blog, simply go to the ‘Leave a Reply’ section at the foot of each post.

It wasn’t always so. Thanks to technical insights provided by staunch supporter and critic Phil Sibelius, I have learned that the ‘comments’ setting on this blog was a bit restrictive. Until now, if you wanted to reply to a post on my blog you would have been asked to register. It all looked a bit complicated and discouraging.

I’ve done away with that, so please share. If in doubt remember that writing is great exercise for the mind, and that sharing ideas is the essence of blogging. Comments also act as fuel; they trigger new ideas and bring freshness to my posts… I hope.

Thanks Phil, for your advice on tuning the blog.


I’m a psychologist, coach, and therapist. All my work is aimed at enabling people to improve personal aspects of their lives and work.


One Comment

  1. Phil-S May 14, 2015 at 9:06 pm

    Due to complications from Barry’s now rectified website I was unable to post the following so it might seem disconnected to the one here because, in fact, it is: this response relates to an earlier blog the name of which escapes me but no matter.

    From my very casual reading of some psychological literature ranging from
    Freud to Peck I still think that ‘neurosis’ and ‘psychosis’ are relevant terms, like a long list of many others. The question here, I guess, is not that psychological terms (or, indeed any other kind) are valid or not but whether they can ‘label’ almost in the sense of being a cause for someone to become neurotic, nice, or psychotic. I don’t buy it: I’m not neurotic because someone has told me I am; however, I can be persuaded that I am by being told (many times, perhaps). My neurosis might be reinforced somehow by taking on that description (if I understand it…).
    There is some truth in the idea that by being nice and by letting people know what you think of them can improve relationships as much as they can ruin them. If we did tell people that this or that was excellent, or we liked what you said very much, or we don’t much like the colour of your car, we can effect change. As with many things, it just depends how we do it and when and to whom.
    I (we) have just returned from Norway where we both found ourselves saying how nice everybody was. Norway is notably an open society with fewer ‘traffic signals’ to guide everybody because it is taken for granted that most people are grown up and actually know what the right thing to do is. Interestingly, there is no ‘final call’ for flight boarding at the airport – why? Because we are grown ups and know that if we don’t go the right gate at
    the right time we won’t be flying home.
    Contrast this with a stroll along Seaford beach where there are so many placards telling us to ‘take care’, ‘mind out for cyclists’, ‘you’re being watched!’, ‘don’t let your dog on the pebbles’ etc etc. Why? Because we are labelled as stupid and, what is more, placards are paid for by local taxes. GRRRR!!!


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