Skip to Navigation

Here are two ideas that may be useful as you go about your daily business.

  1. It’s always easier and more productive to find out what works and do more of it. Rather than worrying about a habit or routine that you are struggling with, examine the things that you do right in your life. Doing more of them is easier and more affirming than admonishing yourself for setbacks or failings. It also helps to make you more resilient.
  2. It’s easier to move towards something you want than it is to flee something you don’t want. For example, want to become a vegetarian or to stop shouting at your spouse? Then rather than stopping something (eating meat, shouting), move towards what you want by creating an appealing non-meat menu or an image of the (non-shoutey) person you’d rather be.
If you want to change something its takes less effort and is likely to be more rewarding if you build on your existing strengths, and move towards your goals.

What do you think? Share your thoughts...

Latest from the blog

What If We’re Wrong About Addiction?

What really causes addiction. And how can we overcome it? You might think that the experts know how to deal with addiction, and how to help people ‘rehabilitate’ themselves. It’s a reassuring thought, but incorrect. We are obsessed with punishment (after all, addicts do it to themselves, don’t they?), and the whole caboodle based on misconceptions […]

Continue reading

Not Perfect But Not Imperfect Either

imperfection

Some people make a habit of publicising what they see as their imperfections by making apologising in advance. It’s not helpful to them, the situation, or the relationship.

And false modesty is not attractive.

Continue reading
FREE DOWNLOAD - Get it now.

How to be more Resilient

Get my super-helpful guide '9 Steps to Resilience' absolutely FREE, when you subscribe to my newsletter.

Understand the steps to resilience and you can develop the ability to cope with problems and setbacks with less stress and more confidence.
close-link
%d bloggers like this: