Brooding will not only get you down, it'll make the misery seem more real and present. Reflection is good, but brooding is not; it is simply reinforcing the bad stuff, in some cases preventing us from moving on it our lives.
Food intolerance is widespread and we are increasingly well informed about what we eat.
We take great care to ensure we don’t ingest things that are toxic to our bodies.
But we totally ignore the list of things that do us harm mentally. We happily and ignorantly indulge in daily habits that, to us a technical term “do our heads in." If we can spot the common allergens we can do something about them and make wiser choices.
What do you do if you are caught in a situation where someone won't see things from your point of view?
Maybe they stick doggedly to their own position, as in a disagreement or conflict, or maybe they are simply unable to see things from another perspective.
It has taken me a long time to learn to let others live their lives in the way of their choosing, without getting upset when they won’t see it my way.
If you recognise a dislike or mistrust of change in yourself, welcome to the club, you are not alone. It may simply be that your intuition is looking after you.
Don't beat yourself up about it, and save your 'fear' for the important times you might need it.
Gurus of productivity and performance would have us believe there is such thing as time management, but I find that most people are relieved when I announce that time can't be managed. We all know this really and while I am happy to use the term 'time management' as a general concept when talking about personal development and training, we should not use it to delude ourselves.
Reflection is good, brooding is not. But how do you break the cycle of negative thinking? It is great that human beings can reflect and learn from experience, but that is not the same as destructively dwelling on things.
Going over things again and again serves no useful purpose and may well reinforce the sense of failure. It's a habit worth breaking.
Conflict is obviously costly in financial terms, but more important is the cost to morale, working relationships and personal well-being. Conflict causes misery and burns up energy that would otherwise used productively for work. But it doesn’t have to be like this. If you are involved in a dispute at work (or elsewhere) here are some things you can do to start to resolve it.