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We are more likely to show love and compassion for those around us than we are to show them to ourselves. People who manage it – are appreciative, kind and considerate towards themselves – are more often optimistic, grateful and even joyous, than those who are harder on themselves.

This came from a recent article by Linda Holmes, and it struck a chord with me because I spent a good deal of my working life at one time in contact with people who, if they didn’t actually dislike themselves, certainly had a lot of trouble accepting that they were worthy and likeable.

If you’ve ever tried to persuade somebody that their deeply held beliefs are just one way of looking at things, and that there may be alternative views which might be worth considering, you’ll know what a waste of time it can be.

On the other hand, if you practice what you preach, by demonstrating love and respect for yourself, perhaps some might be encouraged to emulate your shining example.

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