Questions have been called ‘keys’; they can open the door to new thinking. These questions can help you find a way past an impasse. They offer the chance to take the conversation in a new direction.
Disagreements, even major ones, don't have to become fights that can end the relationship. But take heart, there's plenty you can do to avoid ending it.
Make no mistake, words can hurt you. Despite the "sticks and stones" incantation that many of us hear from an early age, words can be lethal. People can and do say hurtful and destructive things. But to be effective any insult or put-down must find its mark. Even the most wounding remark is harmless until it finds its target. As someone once said, "In order to get your goat they must first find your goat." My advice? Move your goat.
There is no such thing as a ‘communication breakdown’. We here about it all time time, but I think this is a an inaccurate and limiting term which does more harm than good. Here’s why.
What do you do if you are caught in a situation where someone won't see things from your point of view? Maybe they stick doggedly to their own position, as in a disagreement or conflict, or maybe they are simply unable to see things from another perspective. It has taken me a long time to learn to let others live their lives in the way of their choosing, without getting upset when they won’t see it my way.
When someone says, "It's a power thing", or "Power corrupts"... they are not providing a useful summary, they are telling you that they haven't thought it through and are not likely to.
Make peace today. We can't influence gloobal wars and destruction, but we can all influence our own relationships with people we are in contact with daily. Here are three tips.
There are five key factors to consider before you attempt to handle any difficult behaviour. This video tells you what they are.
How do you change self-defeating behaviour when you don't know what it is? Simple really, when you know how. It's a bit like quantum physics (I think, but I could be wrong here). In quantum science they have had to test for things by assuming they are there and then working from that assumption. Its the same with patterns of behaviour. If you assume there is one and act to change it, you'll soon find out if it existed or not.
We are naturally inclined to take up positions. Maybe it's a bit extreme to say we are natural extremists, but being wholly for or against something, in a complex and shifting world, also seems extreme.