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On Becoming the Person You’d Like To Be

Most of us have something about ourselves that we’d like to change or improve on. Having a clear idea of where you’d like to end up is more important than worrying how you’ll get there.

But the vision needs to be more than just vague and wooly aspirations like “To be happier”, or “To be comfortable in life”. Sensible though such hankerings are, they don’t contain enough detail to guide you.

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Start With What You’ve Got

Some people make the mistake of starting with what they want, rather than what they have.

This can be frustrating rather than motivating. It encourages an ‘I can’t wait’ mentality which only makes the waiting harder.

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Don’t Try to Stop Guilt and Shame – Just Free Yourself

Guilt course

Guilt can be perverse and insistent. Perverse because it can hang around long after it has done it’s job, and insistent because it keeps knocking long after you’ve not only heard it, you’ve let it in and got the message.

On occasions it also persuades you that we have to put up with it, but you don’t.

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Six Things That Being Solution Focused Means

being solution focused

Being solution focused means that one sees the possibilities rather than the limitations.

It doesn’t mean denying the past, nor refusing to discuss it, it means accepting the past but not allowing it to define or predict the future.

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What I Do – I sometimes Wonder

what I do, How to ask questions, difficult decisions

I’m easily distracted. Well, I mean, there’s so much out there, and so much one can do, it’s easy to start out doing one thing, never to finish because I end up doing three others (which I probably won’t finish either).
So, from time to time, I like to help my ideas settle and ask myself what is actually driving what I do.

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