Stuck with a problem that you haven't been able to fix? Remember that 68% of domestic arguments are based on things that cannot be 'solved', and that many other problems become easier to solve when we change direction.
We say, "Be careful what you wish for". Sounds like a warning to me. What about "Look forward to what you wish for"?
Most of us have something about ourselves that we'd like to change or improve on. Having a clear idea of where you'd like to end up is more important than worrying how you'll get there. But the vision needs to be more than just vague and wooly aspirations like "To be happier", or "To be comfortable in life". Sensible though such hankerings are, they don't contain enough detail to guide you.
Knowing where you want to go next is less important than knowing where you are now. If you are driven by unhappiness with where you are now, you may overlook some vital information.
Some people make the mistake of starting with what they want, rather than what they have. This can be frustrating rather than motivating. It encourages an 'I can't wait' mentality which only makes the waiting harder.
Guilt can be perverse and insistent. Perverse because it can hang around long after it has done it's job, and insistent because it keeps knocking long after you've not only heard it, you've let it in and got the message. On occasions it also persuades you that we have to put up with it, but you don't.
When you compare your goal with where you are now it seem far-off and that can discourage you. Start with what you have, and you'll be motivated.
Being solution focused means that one sees the possibilities rather than the limitations. It doesn't mean denying the past, nor refusing to discuss it, it means accepting the past but not allowing it to define or predict the future.
This simple life-changing 7-minute exercise will help you see if you’re truly aiming for the right goals in your life or if you’re stuck in modern culture’s “Means Goals” trap.
I'm easily distracted. Well, I mean, there's so much out there, and so much one can do, it's easy to start out doing one thing, never to finish because I end up doing three others (which I probably won't finish either). So, from time to time, I like to help my ideas settle and ask myself what is actually driving what I do.
