Depression’s a Bugger!
Depression deserves our disdain. It responds to the right treatment, yet we continue to treat it with outdated methods.
Giving bad news
I have had many requests recently for information and training on handling redundancy and giving bad news. In response I have prepared a handout to help those who must perform this unenviable task prepare for the job.
One Damn thing…
Elbert Hubbard, the American writer, philosopher and wit, said "Life ...
Tweet for Spring
Spring is here and the birds have started up, so ...
Whatever They Say, It’s Just Information
Thinking that we have supernatural powers can cause difficulties. Take mind reading for example. There is only one way to be sure that you have understood another person correctly. However well you know them, you can't read their mind, so check before acting. The problem is compounded when your relationship is long-standing; your partner invariably thinks they know what you mean, and vice-versa. It's not the exchange of information that is the problem, it's that we believe we know what it means.
How to Show Empathy
What is the difference between empathy and sympathy, and why does on bring us together while the other drives us apart? It takes Dr Brené Brown just over two minute to explain in this video.
Knowing When Just To Be Present
What does it mean to hold space for someone? At ...
Helping Might Mean Standing Back
If someone is resisting you, or your advice, it can be annoying, frustrating and even destructive. The eventual result can be worse than you imagined and certainly not what you intended.
When the Needle in the Groove Equals the Same Old Tune
If a conversation is stuck in a well-worn groove it might be time to give it a nudge. While it's polite to listen, it helps no-one to keep going over the same old ground.
What Your Brief Therapist May Not Tell You (But Should)
There is a whole raft of reasons why Brief Therapy is growing in popularity, and a boatload of confused ideas as well. I've published an article that addresses some of them, and there is a surprising twist...
