Adapting to change can be a shock to the system, and It takes time. You can't set a timetable – everyone adapts differently – but usually a few months or a couple of years are enough for someone to start living comfortably with 'the new reality', and re-building a life. In this case, it's a divorce, but whatever the change, we all manage the process in our own way. It helps to have insight, to be honest with oneself, and to accept. But occasionally people get stuck. It's a doubly painful when they don't even realise it.
If only they knew how! There are issues of of ability and responsibility when it comes to managing your personal space.
It's hard letting someone you care for do something their own way when – through experience or insight – you know best.
Forgetting and remembering stand side by side in our arsenal of innate skills. But it is remembering that gets all the glory, while forgetting is maligned and misunderstood. Forgetting has its place, just as remembering does.