It's unwise to suggest that misery is self-induced or to say that anyone is responsible for their own pain. But that's no reason to avoid making wise choices that can lift us out of our misery. First though, you have to know what your choices are: Column A or Column B?
Everyone everywhere wants to be happy, yet we steadfastly ignore the advice from philosophers, psychologists and spiritual leaders on how to do it. Apparently, we'd rather focus on things that upset us. There are a number of ways people commonly use to increase their misery and unhappiness.