Feeling stuck, sluggish and becalmed can be uncomfortable. In the ocean of life though, it is best to go with the prevailing conditions.
Keeping separation and loss alive can be more damaging in the long term than the events themselves. There's merit in the idea that while we should rightly honour the past, we must also be willing to welcome the future. A ritual can do both, simultaneously.
I know that people like me are always banging on about the future, focussing on the present, living in the moment, and stuff like that, but with fulfilment, for once, it's also relevant to consider the past. If, like quite a few people, you are carting about dissatisfaction or other weighty emotions that hinder you in the here and now, maybe it's time now, today, to do something about it. Here's a two-stage plan.