Cows do it, and so do most other species. Understanding and maintaining your boundaries may make you little uncomfortable at times, but it's vital to wellbeing. People function better when they can define their space and get others to respect it.
I was reminded of this recently – and not for the first time – while I was presenting a workshop to managers in a large organisation. We had some serious discussion about what their expectations were of themselves and their performance at work. And it's not just at work that this happens.
If only they knew how! There are issues of of ability and responsibility when it comes to managing your personal space.
Be careful who you listen to. Self-blame is an ugly habit that can wear you down. When an inner critic gets out of hand its time to call it out, just as you would with any voice raised against you.
We are constantly warned about cyber security and the threat posed by hackers. It's an interesting concept that can be applied not just to computers, but to us as well. Our inner security and peace of mind rely on us having clear values and a sense of who we are, so we don't become victims of emotional malware.