This post is written specifically about sleep, you can adapt the elements to any situation in life where you want to facilitate change or mark a transition.
Even the bad events in our lives are relevant. Things we'd rather forget can help us learn and grow, if we let them. The trick is to review them, not re-live them.
In human mythology doors and doorways are powerfully symbolic, they feature in many of our narratives and rituals. This means that there are things you can do that you may not have thought about. Doorways provide openings...
The table is a powerful symbol as well as a practical object. Magic can happen around your table, so lavish yours with care and attention.
Keeping separation and loss alive can be more damaging in the long term than the events themselves. There's merit in the idea that while we should rightly honour the past, we must also be willing to welcome the future. A ritual can do both, simultaneously.
Remembering and honouring the past is a personal and private commitment to that which we have lost. It's a kind of contract. Memories fade with time, they are meant to. But that doesn't mean we have to forget, it simply means the relationship is changing. With luck, it'll enter an even richer phase.
Pilgrimage is open to all. You don't have to have faith in anything except your own abilities. You can plan a pilgrimage, but not the outcome, and you don't necessarily have to arrive at the destination to enjoy a transformation.
People often tie themselves up in knots following a change, because the haste to be free of the past actually ties us to it. Before you can let go of something properly, you have to embrace it.
Today is the winter solstice*, the day the sun stands [...]