Could it be that though we can see that we have gained wisdom and insight with life’s experience, we nevertheless consider that the process is over and that at any given moment we are as wise as we’ll ever be?
It's the job of emotions to push us to act, and they have a logic of their own. But it's a false logic and not to be trusted.
Some things we can never get 'right', and it doesn't matter. It's a fact of life that nobody can be good at everything, and with some things notions of right and wrong are just plain daft.
Make no mistake, words can hurt you. Despite the "sticks and stones" incantation that many of us hear from an early age, words can be lethal. People can and do say hurtful and destructive things. But to be effective any insult or put-down must find its mark. Even the most wounding remark is harmless until it finds its target. As someone once said, "In order to get your goat they must first find your goat." My advice? Move your goat.
Things are only as they seem because they are that way, and they are as they are because they seem that way. It's important to distinguish between description, and definition.
Lack of confidence isn’t the absence of something, it’s the opposite, the presence of something. When we are about to try something new – or do anything that takes us out of our comfort zone – we can be assailed by unwanted and intrusive thoughts, feelings and images. We can ignore them, you know.
Carol Qweck's compelling talk explains the vital importance of believing we can improve, and gives pointers on helping those we influence to do the same.
We often overlook details that might seem inconsequential, but they are not. Taking a little time to sort out our thinking about this or that can be well worth the effort.
...it doesn't mean you have to. Being able to do [...]
Delusion protects us, and it can provide pleasure. It is a useful skill, for example, to be able to put our cares aside and pretend so that we can get on with life, or being able to engage in the fantasy of a movie. Also, compared with when we deceive others, there is less risk of getting caught when we delude ourselves.