Uncertainty, like life, is all around us. Few things are certain but we continue to act as though we believe that they are. Learning to accept uncertainty is a talent that can carry the day.
When you can't decide you have already decided that you can't make a decision, which is in itself a decision. It takes a strong-willed person to be undecided, and it may have unexpected consequences.
These are part of the same process and trying to separate them by focusing on one or the other creates an 'either-or' situation that can never really happen. Thinking like that can distract you and stifle creativity, among other things.
Resisting change is not only a waste of time, it also makes it harder to deal with. Following advice from other people is probably not the right way to go either (you can still read this though). Change can be difficult, but it needn't be as big a problem as we often make it.
The neat categorising and packaging of ideas and information is venerated in many of our world. Manipulative? Sure. And also respected, even sought after, but never adequate to cover all situations. Don't you agree, or perhaps you disagree?
When lost in a quandary or struggling in a crisis how do you respond? I don't mean the day-to-day stuff, I mean real, critical, mid-life, existential, where-to-from-here-I'm-in-a-total-panic-because-I-feel-lost sort of crisis.
A great asset though it is, you can't always trust your imagination.
We shroud ourselves in beliefs that help us feel secure. One of these is that things tomorrow will be the same as they were yesterday. But the idea that things don't change is a delusion, that is all. Nothing wrong with that, but it is best to recognise it, and to keep an open mind about what will happen next. The greater our need to keep things the way they are, the greater the risk of disappointment and even neurosis. Trying to control the uncontrollable is unpleasant for us, and those around us.
Embracing uncertainty can be scary, but admitting what you don't know can be liberating.
I was thinking about alchemy, the way you do, and [...]