Some situations in life seem to demand grand gestures. It's not where you seek but how you seek that is important
Decisions about where to put our energies can be clouded by outdated habits and beliefs. Tilting at windmills may be a noble pastime, but check first whether it is a habit whose time has past.
Could it be that though we can see that we have gained wisdom and insight with life’s experience, we nevertheless consider that the process is over and that at any given moment we are as wise as we’ll ever be?
Ducking the serious issues in a relationship prevents mutual growth and understanding. It's the stuff that wisdom is made of to be able to take a mature view, regardless of one's age.
Whatever the problem, someone somewhere has had to deal with it before we do. It's useful to remember this; it provides perspective, and sometimes even, solutions. At the very least, realising that our ancestors went through similar stuff means we can draw on our species' collective wisdom.
"You're over the hill by 30" (Einstien). It takes 10k [...]
When someone is asking for help are they really asking for help? What is something else is needed? The question is, how can you find out?
Meeting bad behaviour with tolerance and understanding is one thing, making excuses so we don't have to deal with it another. In some cases we are wiser and kinder to excuse someone who treats us badly, but sometimes it is just and excuse to protect ourselves.
Fixers and Floaters can get caught up in a relationship of inter-dependence. Breaking the cycle helps both.
With time, expertise can become outdated, and knowledge obsolete, whereas wisdom grows over time. What's more, you never know where you'll find it.