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I wrote something on surrender a year or so ago, but never published it. A friend who remembered it sent me a link to this video.

Dr Brené Brown believes that vulnerability is what gives our lives meaning and purpose. A social sciences researcher, her talks are eloquent and entertaining and above all they give pause for thought. Her pitch is that vulnerability is the crucible of creativity, joy and fulfilment. But. because we fear being vulnerable and conflate it with weakness we numb our senses to protect ourselves.The compounding effect of this is that it also distances us from authentic experience.

We cannot ‘numb’ selectively so when we cut ourselves off from the risky business of being vulnerable, we also exclude experiences like openness, joy and love which are the route to fulfilment. As these are also the aspects that give us the reserves we need to face adversity, numbing starts a vicious cycle that underlies many personal and social problems.

Take some time to watch this (about 20 minutes), give it 24 hours and then return to watch this.

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