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Self-discipline is an aspect of our development that needs our constant attention, but it need not be hard work. All it takes is a little regular ‘housework’ in our minds to tidy up our thinking and our lives will follow in the same pattern.

When things go wrong; when we are unhappy; when the stresses of life are too much; and particularly when we are going through break-up or career change, it  helps to ask yourself “What aspects of this situation (or relationship) would I like to keep in my life after this is over?”

This helps us to be aware of the things that are important to us, and to care for and nurture them.

It’s all too easy – and natural – to focus on what we see as problems, but when we do we can overlook and neglect things we value.

“What do you want to keep…” acts as a directive.

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