Skip to Navigation

We often fail to achieve the goals we set ourselves because they are not really ‘goals’ at all. More likely they are aspirations, hopes, dreams, wishes of just half-baked ideas. There is nothing wrong with any of these, each has its place. It can become a problem though when we confuse them with goals, a) because we miss our targets, and b) because it can reinforce a sense of personal failure or even impossibility.

Properly formed goals are those which are in reach and which, in their description, are clear enough to be made real. Remember that the unconscious mind doesn’t like vague or abstracts concepts. Keep it simple and distinct, “good” or “bad” rather than “OK” or “not quite right”; “Yes” or “No” rather than “perhaps”.

Also, beware of preceding your ‘goals’ with get-out clauses like “I’ll try…”; “If I get time…”; or even “I think I’ll...”.

Specific descriptions are more likely to bring specific results. Frame your goals in concrete terms using action-verbs; “I will complete the construction of my new house by September”, “I am going to spend one week thinking about this and then I’ll prepare my action-plan which I’ll finish writing by the 31st”; “Next time I feel like shouting at my partner I’ll stop, kiss them, and leave the room.” (Explain this to your significant other beforehand during a moment of harmony so they don’t think you are just walking off).

This was going to be a short post. Missed my goal again! Here’s my download, Resource sheet, Goal Exercises, for practice. Good luck, you know you can do it!

What do you think? Share your thoughts...

Latest from the blog

Patterns In Your Life

How do you change self-defeating behaviour when you don’t know what it is? Simple really, when you know how.

It’s a bit like quantum physics (I think, but I could be wrong here). In quantum science they have had to test for things by assuming they are there and then working from that assumption. Its the same with patterns of behaviour. If you assume there is one and act to change it, you’ll soon find out if it existed or not.

Continue reading

Your Vision – Without It You’re Stuck

visualisation, vision

You’ve heard the expression “Be careful what you wish for”. When we hold a belief that something will happen, it’s more likely to. This is generally associated with negative events, but it also applies to positive ones, like goals and aspirations. Successful people – especially the super-achievers – in any field know this. Every success […]

Continue reading

Free Stress Reduction

There is something on the horizon. We all see it every day, but mostly we keep our eyes lowered. The something that we all see but many would prefer to avoid noticing is the common-sense dictum that taking time for ourselves, outside, is essential to both short- and long-term wellbeing and health. Whether it is […]

Continue reading
FREE DOWNLOAD - Get it now.

How to be more Resilient

Get my super-helpful guide '9 Steps to Resilience' absolutely FREE, when you subscribe to my newsletter.

Understand the steps to resilience and you can develop the ability to cope with problems and setbacks with less stress and more confidence.
close-link
%d bloggers like this: