The old advice about not getting romantically involved with a colleague is obviously not heeded by a lot of people, judging by surveys that regularly report high numbers of intimate relationships that start at work. This is predictable really, since so many of us spend so much time in the company of colleagues.
Nevertheless, “look before you leap” is still a wise thing to do for several reasons, not least because – if it doesn’t work out – working alongside your ‘ex’ is not a bundle of laughs. Even if it does works out OK, you may not be complaining, but there is a good chance your workmates will. Staff surveys show that there is a high gag-factor associated with the lovey-dovey behaviour of workmates-who-have-become-playmates letting their boundaries slip, and going all gooey-eyed in meetings. And if you are already romantically involved, don’t think no-one else has noticed; there is a good change it’s written all over you and they have.
Don’t just take my word for it, you can read about the pros-and cons in Psychology Today.
Anyway, if this is you, good luck. If you are teetering on the brink of something, you might like to consider carefully before wading in. His love hasn’t chased all reason away, here’s an article from Personnel Today to help with your deliberations.