fear of failure, solution focused

One of the most important stages in therapy is to understand that you are not your problem. No matter how pressing the difficulty, however long you’ve lived with it, or what beliefs you have built up around it over time, person and problem are separate entities.

Confusing the problem with your own identity makes it impossible to attack the problem and change.

Whether you are formally engaged in therapy with professional help, or you are seeking healing change through your own efforts, understanding that you exist independently of the challenges you face is the key that unlocks the first door to the positive changes you seek.

Only when you can separate yourself from the problem and put a little distance between you and it – even if only momentarily – will you have a space to work on change. It is in that space that both potential and creativity can be realised.

I’m a psychologist, coach, and therapist. All my work is aimed at enabling people to improve personal aspects of their lives and work.

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2 Comments

  1. Martin Finnegan October 19, 2015 at 10:03 am

    That is a gem of a thought Barry. I and my unconscious mind have been churning it over for a couple of days now. I think that it will prove to be an important key for me .
    Keep up the good work.
    Martin

    • bwinbolt October 19, 2015 at 12:47 pm

      Thank you Martin, I’m glad it hit the spot. I really value the feedback; it’s comments like yours that provide the energy I need to keep at it.

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