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Lack of confidence isn’t the absence of something, it’s the opposite, the presence of something.

When we are about to try something new – or do anything that takes us out of our comfort zone – we can be assailed by unwanted and intrusive thoughts, feelings and images.

It is the occurrence of these disruptive internal events that causes the problem, or rather, it is the way in which we take notice of these experiences that holds us back.

We all have mental chatter that says things like “I could never do that”, “I’m not good enough”, and “I’ll fail”. Some people also run (and re-run), glorious HD images or video clips about past humiliations or failures. And then there are the feelings…

Becoming aware of these intrusions is the first step to ignoring them. Learn to accept self-doubt and just get on with whatever you want to do (as long as its healthy and doesn’t harm anyone).

See also

My free webinar How to Build Your Confidence.

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