Barry Winbolt's Blog. Posts that will help you get a better handle on life.

Being Alone and Why We Should Be at Peace with Solitude

April 5th, 2020

But being alone doesn’t mean being lonely, they are two different things. Just as we crave social contact, we also need moments of peace and quiet.

You Can Say a Lot, But Is It Believable?

April 4th, 2020

Making yourself understood is relatively easy, whether you are believeble or not is another matter.

You communicate best when others trust and believe you.

I’m Wrong About Most Things, At Some Point

April 2nd, 2020

We shroud ourselves in beliefs that help us feel secure. One of these is that things tomorrow will be the same as they were yesterday. But the idea that things don’t change is a delusion, that is all.

Nothing wrong with that, but it is best to recognise it, and to keep an open mind about what will happen next. The greater our need to keep things the way they are, the greater the risk of disappointment and even neurosis.

Trying to control the uncontrollable is unpleasant for us, and those around us.

Goat Crossfit? Engaging Natural Resources for Fitness Training

April 1st, 2020

Goat-crossfit is new one to me, but at least it exercised my sense of humour.

What If Your Inner Voice Is Wrong?

March 31st, 2020

The gift of insight is a wonderful thing. But how an you tell the difference between what is truly insight, and the ‘clutching at straws’ mindset in a moment of desparation?

Intuition my not be reliable, because It’s still the same person making the decisions, whatever they are guided by.

How to Help Someone Change Their Mind

March 27th, 2020

What do you do if you are caught in a situation where someone won’t see things from your point of view?

Maybe they stick doggedly to their own position, as in a disagreement or conflict, or maybe they are simply unable to see things from another perspective.

It has taken me a long time to learn to let others live their lives in the way of their choosing, without getting upset when they won’t see it my way.

Voices Speak Louder Than Words

March 27th, 2020

Who do you believe? I suppose it depends on who you trust.

Sometimes though it is a case of the loudest voice being the most persuasive, so it’s handy to know where the volume control is.

There’s also an on-off switch.

Swearing at work

March 25th, 2020

There was a time when the boundary between work and social life was clearly defined and only in extreme cases did anyone need to be reprimanded or corrected about inappropriate behaviour like swearing, shouting, insults or open sexual innuendo. But not any more. New research shows that what was once taboo at work might now be becoming acceptable.

Forgetting is a Gift – Use It

March 25th, 2020

We are blessed with the ability to forget things. It’s a gift, but we often overlook its central importance in how we function.

Remembering is valued,. Not remembering is judged, criticized and diagnosed. Rightly so in some cases, but should we jump to the conclusion that forgetting is de facto some sort of failure?

The ability to forget is a gift that we generally fail to unwrap. If we could remember to forget more often it might free us up for other things.

Site Improvements

March 23rd, 2020

My website is having some changes made to improve access and readability. As I did not want to close the site during alterations, some functions may not be working properly over the next few weeks. I hope this does not inconvenience you, and please remember that you can email me and arrange a phone call […]