How to Make Your Mood More Manageable
Our mood is the foundation of our wellbeing. We take it with us wherever we go. Yet, we behave as though we have no control over it. But we do.
Why You Shouldn’t Struggle With Stress
Managing stress is easier said than done when it becomes just another thing on your to-do list. Maybe it would be easier to give up the struggle.
How to Stop Judging
If you are stuck with something you don't like about ...
Manage Your Anger or It Will Manage You
Anger need not be a problem, though it often is. Aristotle said "Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy". Controlling anger is a choice, but not one that is easy to make when we are angry. Decisions have to be made while in a different mindset, which means either reprogramming...
Cause and Effect – Don’t Be Too Sure
We all like to be seen as experts, and it seems that many people think that an easy way to give the impression that you are one is to tell others what caused their problems. This is not always helpful.
How to Understand and Measure Your Emotional Intelligence
This post has resources to help you understand and measure your Emotional Intelligence. Learn about your EI strengths, and how to develop them.
Keeping an Open Mind
Open mind good – closed mind bad; it is implied if not actually said. The trouble is that even when the mind is open there is a sort of glass door just behind the opening that filters what comes in. It's no good having and open mind if it is only 'open' to what yo want to hear.
Emotional Logic Is Not Your Friend – Beware
It's the job of emotions to push us to act, and they have a logic of their own. But it's a false logic and not to be trusted.
Shame and the Guilt Trap
"Guilt is a largely redundant emotion". There, I've said it, and I don't feel to bad about it actually. If it turns out I've done something wrong I can always apologise and make amends, in the meantime I'm letting guilt go, I can always worry about it later.
How to Remedy Guilty Feelings
If you are troubled by unwanted feelings of guilt, here's an exercise that can help. It is part of my soon-to-be-released online course 'How to be Free of Guilt'. The trick is to make the feelings disappear by making mischief.
