Those who can, do…
What happens when you decide to take time out and plan to change a life? This is the first instalment of my new journey. While I'm not sure exactly how it'll turn out, I do know it's taking me somewhere I want to go. Watch this space!
Handout – Dialogue vs Debate
'Dialogue' is a powerful way of communicating that provides a route to increased understanding, shared experience, more effective relationships and resolving conflict. This handout explains how it differs from other kinds of discussion.
Walking on eggshells, how to discuss sensitive issues
Most of us are careful about how we tackle sensitive issues with colleagues and family members. This article provides some pointers on how to go about raising a subject you have been avoiding, to help tackle delicate matters in a productive, fair and balanced way, and to be sure of getting the results you need. Getting the other person's attention, striking the right note and ensuring that something changes is the challenge.
Ruminating – How to Let It Go, These Ideas Will Help
Following my post Let It Go a few days ago I received a question. I've edited it, the gist was: “How do I let go, if I cannot turn it into action? I would love some practical advice on this. It sounds so easy, but I find it very hard.”
Delusion is bliss
Delusion protects us, and it can provide pleasure. It is a useful skill, for example, to be able to put our cares aside and pretend so that we can get on with life, or being able to engage in the fantasy of a movie. Also, compared with when we deceive others, there is less risk of getting caught when we delude ourselves.
Are We Becoming More Prickly?
People are robust and free-thinking and not as easily offended as one might think. Still, better to be safe than sorry, I suppose.
How to Adjust to Change in 5 Easy Steps
Change can be inconvenient and even frightening, but dealt with constructively it is a lot less troubling. Even changes we look forward to can seem harder than we expected. While change can happen suddenly, transition – the psychological adjustment to new circumstances – takes time. There is no point in struggling against this, indeed fighting it only makes things seem worse. Instead, there are few steps we can take to help the process along.
The Paradox of Suffering
When it comes to unavoidable tragedies of life that cause us to suffer we can be remarkably resilient. We recgonise that some things are unavoidable, and we deal with them. Contrast that with the many ways we perpetuate personal (and fixable) suffering by refusing to address the doubts, fears and negative emotions that we can all fall prey to.
Echos of Winter
A sudden icy blast can be misleading. When we have noticed positive change and our hopes are building, anything that feels like a setback can be demoralising. But its just the ebb and flow of life, not a disaster.
