Selfishness can be justified and it’s necessary to understand how to protect yourself if you want to be ble to continue giving. Many carers struggle with this. Most of us probably have a fair idea of how best to look after ourselves, yet still we fail to do it. The risk is stress and eventual compassion-fatigue and even burnout.
We all know that self-care is important, that understanding our needs and protecting them is good advice, don’t we? We also know that sometimes we have to compromise, even sacrifice our own needs by putting others first, or in order to keep the peace.
Where do you draw the line? At what point does self-care really become selfishness? And isn’t selfishness sometimes justified?
It can be tricky to answer these questions, particularly if you’ve never really given them much thought. Now’s your chance to put that right, and to start to understand and know the difference between self-care and selfishness.
I have written an activity that can help you start to clarify your thinking around this question.