Are you ever annoyed by another person’s behaviour? I’m not talking about big social and political events here (we all get annoyed by politicians and we all know the answers to social ills, don’t we?). I’m talking about the immediate and important stuff in our lives like, for example, somebody’s poor time-keeping, the way they fill the dishwasher, or that they never put petrol in the car.

The habits and behaviours of others – particularly those close to us – can drive us crackers. But surely the problem is not their behaviour, it is our expectation that they do something differently, and usually in a way we prescribe.