We have more positive experiences than negative ones, but we have a natural tendency to focus on the negative aspects of our lives.

We ignore of dismiss the good things and amplify bad ones. We speculate on potential problems, to a point where we create them where none exist, simply because it is possible that they could.

If you want to nurture your emotional wellbeing, you’ll need to get a handle on the mind’s habit of favouring the negatives. As a starting point think about your mental diet.

Most of us can choose what we eat and drink, we can do the same with what we come into contact with and ingest intellectually.

I’m a psychologist, coach, and therapist. All my work is aimed at enabling people to improve personal aspects of their lives and work.



  1. Philip Carr-Gomm February 14, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Here, here, Barry! Or is it hear, hear? A good article on the BBC website reinforces your point: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-35561848

  2. Eve Salthouse February 14, 2016 at 11:46 am

    Thank you Philip -I’ll look at that link. A very useful topic…always a temptation to “wallow” I find but when does a trifle of self-indulgence become harmful?

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