Time to Blame Your Inner Critic?
Be careful who you listen to. Self-blame is an ugly habit that can wear you down. When an inner critic gets out of hand its time to call it out, just as you would with any voice raised against you.
Who Decides What We Are Capable Of?
Self-limiting beliefs may keep us safe and protect us from failure or embarrassment. But we all carry ideas that we have inherited and which may not be in our individual best interests. Becoming aware of the invisible maps that guide us can open up new areas of exploration.
Hear the Storyteller, Not Just the Story
Stories have the power to persuade and change, they can also condemn and isolate us. Once we are past childhood we judge a story by the storyteller. We look for interests and motives that could render the story invalid or suspect. When we listen to the stories we tell ourselves we should be similarly cautious, the narrator is usually hugely biased.
Three Essential Questions for Your Life Goals
This simple life-changing 7-minute exercise will help you see if you’re truly aiming for the right goals in your life or if you’re stuck in modern culture’s “Means Goals” trap.
How to Deal with Uncertainty
Uncertainty is uncomfortable. You can't always avoid it, but you can learn to live with it. Trying to predict outcomes can lead to trouble.
Opportunity, Motivation, and Enthusiasm
Opportunity motivation and enthusiasm are vital ingredients for success, and you need all three to reach your goals. If you have ever missed a target or failed to reach your goal, read this.
Two Wolves – A Metaphor for Self Management
Some experiences are common to all of us. Our habits decide which part of ourselves we nurture.
We Are Natural Problem-Solvers, That’s the Problem
We are problem-solving creatures. We love a challenge and without them we don't grow and mature fully. It would be great if an under-used intellect could set its owner crosswords and Sudoku to keep itself busy, but it doesn't. What happens next?
Watch the Pot After All
If you want to make changes in yourself it was once thought to be a bad idea to talk about it until you'd reached your goal. Solution Focused Therapists have always thought this is not the best way to go about things; checking progress AND acknowledging it really helps. Now new research confirms it.
Truth, Lies and Foolishness
Some anthropologists say that the ability to deceive is one of humans' greatest attributes because it helps us maintain social bonds. Then there are the moralisers who tell us why we should tell the truth. There will always be plenty of those. Telling the truth to ourselves is a personal choice that has little to do with morals. It has more to do with personal values, inner strength and personal integrity. And some say that it's a way to avoid folly.
