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How do you stop an argument? In theory it's simple, but as people are usually involved they mess it up by doing the opposite of what is required. A lot of what we learned in school might be redundant in later life, but some of the basics can still come in handy if we can recall them.
Reconciliation is often the last thing on our minds once the heat of a dispute has died down, but it is one of the 'secret ingredients' in mature and resilient relationships.
It can be frustrating when others don't heed our advice, or when they continually do things their way, even though it irritates us. But what right do we have to expect them to change? Isn't the real problem our own expectations?
Whichever you are there are three key factors which will probably surprise you (and others that won't).
Pop-psychology has given us some wonderful labels. The trouble with labels is that they say nothing about what's behind them, that they stick.
Well-formed and persuasive questions are those which open up conversation. They draw the participants together. It is a subtle process of engagement, rather than a blunt and divisinve adversarial campaign of interrogation.
Dreams can come true, but you have to ask. If you are serious about helping yourself and helping others, watch this video. Getting what you want is not about positive thinking, says Barbara Sher, nor attitude. You just have to get connected.
If you only have a single story about yourself, an event, or anything else, that story is manipulating you. You might say that a single story leads to psychological impoverishment.
Do you see difference, or do you see similarity? They are different, but also the same. It just depends which aspect you choose to focus on. There's a kind of fuzzy logic to it.
There's an excuse we have all used (well, I certainly have), that's a standard 'get out' for failed communications. It's best illustrated by a story. I've told it many times, but that's how it is with a good story, it gets re-told until it is no longer needed.
“A different approach to personal development”
“A different approach to personal development”
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