Can We Reverse-Manage Symbols?
This post is the result of a session I delivered yesterday entitled 'Patterns In Our Lives'. It has started a process that, whether I decided to or not, I seem to be developing. The key idea here is that we can influence our inner life (to improve healing and wellbeing for example), by using symbols to do it. Please let me know what you think.
What Do Couples Think They Are Doing?
What contributes to a healthy long-term relationship? There are patterns and predictions, but the real message it not what we do but how we go about it.
Automatic Thinking Doesn’t Mean All-Powerful Thoughts
There's no need to be ruled by unwanted thoughts. If you are – though it may seem that you have no control – there are ways to change the habit. Like most things, it takes a little practice, and the first and most important step is to lose the idea that you can't.
Be Satisfied with What You Have, a Bit
Goals, ambitions, objectives, personal drive, motivation.... All good stuff, we are told, admirable qualities, and all that. There's also a flip side. It's related to satisfaction, and the assumption that satisfaction is a good thing.
Please Remember to Forget
Forgetting and remembering stand side by side in our arsenal of innate skills. But it is remembering that gets all the glory, while forgetting is maligned and misunderstood. Forgetting has its place, just as remembering does.
Working with a ‘Pleaser’
If you are working with someone who always says 'yes' but then fails to deliver, this video might help.
Don’t Measure Up?
The spectre of my own inadequacy used to haunt me. It was something I tried to hide from myself, and of course, from others. I lived with a shadow I knew about, but which I hoped no-one else could see. I would deal with it by noting other peoples’ deficiencies, and at times pointing them out. It was an ugly habit, but in some small way it kept me safe from a nasty undercurrent that threatened my self-image. It was costly too; I had to remaining vigilant so as to ...
Want an Effective Team? Google It!
Personality testing may have its place, but I'm not sure how it helps to produce an effective team. Most team members suss each other out pretty quickly and they don't need a psychological test to tell them which of their colleagues is an introvert, and extrovert or a psychopath.
Watch For The Positive Changes
Positive changes are often overshadowed by less favourable shifts. This means that when we are trying to fix or free ourselves from problem, we tend to be attuned to information that confirms what is wrong. It takes a conscious effort to buck the trend and look for improvements, especially when they are small.
