Balanced Relationships Don’t Need Blame
Ducking the serious issues in a relationship prevents mutual growth and understanding. It's the stuff that wisdom is made of to be able to take a mature view, regardless of one's age.
Why Do We Always Hurt The One We Love?
Do we always hurt the one we love? Well, not ...
Conflict ‘Hot Buttons’ That Stay Hot
Recurring and unsatisfiable themes arise wherever people get together, particularly if they spend any time together. Here are two routes out of the danger zone.
How Does Conflict Affect You?
The effects of conflict are damaging. If you care about your quality of life then you should be able to feel confident about dealing with conflict.
When a Problem Shared is a Need Misunderstood
When someone is asking for help are they really asking for help? What is something else is needed? The question is, how can you find out?
The Healing Relationship
Healing is as old as our species and in the healing process is due to common characteristics. But many of the so-called health systems we have put in place manage unintentionally to obstruct the healing process and seriously impair the quality of life of service users
How to STOP an Argument
it takes two to start an argument, but only one to stop it. There's only one person who can stop and you know who that person is, right?
Good Fences Make Good Neighbours So Set Your Boundaries
Cows do it, and so do most other species. Understanding and maintaining your boundaries may make you little uncomfortable at times, but it's vital to wellbeing. People function better when they can define their space and get others to respect it.
Can Shouting Change Behaviour?
Happy bunnies don't cause trouble, as I often say. So when someone raises their voice it gives clues as to how to respond to them. Best not to listen to the words until you've created a channel for empathetic communication.
Sympathy vs Solutions (Again)
There are approximately 282 reasons why someone would want to discuss a problem without necessarily wanting to do anything about it. Try 'sympathy-focused' rather than 'solution-focused'.
